One of my favorite shows' mission this week is Finding True Friends. The 6 guys were given a folder that they had to fill with their friends' kissmark as confirmation of their being true friends. They first discuss what makes a true friend so they'd know who to approach. One guy said the first person that pops in your head is a true friend. Others say the ones that are there when you're at your lowest while some say the ones with you through good and tough times. And ofcourse, childhood friends or friends you've known for years. When asked for the estimate number of true friends they believe they have, the average answer was 2-3. And then I did a quick count and came up with the same. Throughout the show, as they one by one tell their stories about their friends or why they lost contact, I can't help but think of my own.
One guy had a falling out with his bestfriend 7 years ago, but still considers him his best. When he was given the mission, the first person that came to mind was that friend. I could totally relate. Whenever I'm asked who my bestfriend is, there's only one person that comes to mind. We drifted apart because of miscommunication and although we're friends again, the feeling now is more cordial than comfortable. But still I consider her my best. And just like that guy, losing that friend was one thing I regret the most. She is, in my opinion, a true friend no matter how far we've grown apart.
One guy chose his childhood friends. There were 5 of them, although 1 left for abroad. He called one friend first to meet up. You could tell by their easy conversation that they're close. But his friend couldn't meet him, he was in China. He was surprised but asked where their other friend was and his friend chuckled and informed him that that friend was currently with him. He was shocked at not even knowing this and his friend asked if this was for the show. So he explained the mission and with this the friend laughed. Because the last remaining friend is with them IN CHINA! Although the guy was laughing you can tell by the look on his face that he was hurt. In a separate interview he said that as a celebrity his friends could see him on T.V. and root for him, but he didn't even think to call them to ask how they were because he was busy. And only if he had, he would have known that they were all abroad. He felt as if someone had purposely sent his friends to China so he could see how much he's neglected them and taken them for granted. This happens to all of us. Sometimes I find myself missing friends so much but still I don't call or text because I don't have the time to chat. And then I'd feel a bit sad when I find out things on SNS along with their other friends instead if hearing the story straight from that friend. There's the feeling of being left out but then it was only because I didn't make time for them. Sometimes we think only of ourselves we fail to realize that wherever our relationship is with someone, we actually made it or contributed for it to end that way.
The show runs for over an hour and in that span of time I had deeply reflected on my friendships that I felt compelled to share the show, to see if it would affect you as it did me. Obviously the definition of a true friend differs with every person. We sometimes wonder which of our friends would come through for us, which ones are our real friends. But have we ever asked ourselves whether WE are being a true friend?
Watch The Human Condition on KBS (channel 75 on Skycable) every Saturdays, 12 midnight. Or catch your missed episodes on KBSWorld T.V.
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